The EU is continuously improving and changing so that's not even a point to make. The EU is the 28 member states and the institution, this sentence makes very little sense when every country makes propositions, some are accepted others aren't, the shared sovereignty on common subjects means that you need to convince the cosovereigns, as long as people don't burn that into their minds we will get into these silly arguments.
When I read some of the posts, what I actually see is people that wants a dictatorship from a single member.
Regarding the dictatorship you mentioned. Why is the EU pushing ahead with a European Army when a number of countries are against the idea.