Do grown men really cry and scream that much, though? It's mainly something teens/young adults do.
If you're talking about singing along, then yes, that's something everyone can do. It's pretty standard to do that if you go to a concert of an artist you like.
The Swift show I saw the only grown men carrying on emotionally were very
flamboyant and most likely gay men.
I can't speak for everyone, but I'd imagine it's less to do with hearing a specific lyric rather than the whole experience of being there with 60k people and singing along to songs that you love. I can see why people have strong reactions to that. Live music like that, at its best, is euphoric.
Agreed. I've tried expressing the sensation of being surrounded by that much positivity, especially for a demographic (i.e., the objects of the male gaze - the overwhelming victims of sexual violence, the ones who are murdered most often by their boyfriends and husbands - that can finally
relax at one of her shows.
I've been to 1,000 shows. This was a unique vibe. I've been at several "hot" bands' first US shows (The Cult [apparently a word filter, so this word describes organizations like People's Temple, Branch Davidians, Heaven's Gate et al.], The Jesus & Mary Chain, Ned's Atomic Dustbin, Arctic Monkeys, Glasvegas). The excitement was palpable, but it was not this. I've seen bands' reunion shows after thinking it would never happen (The Chameleons, Sunny Day Real Estate, Gang Of Four, Jawbreaker, Bauhaus, Refused) - the crowd emotions were high, but nothing like this. I've been to secret shows that were held in coffee shops (Melt Banana, Red Krayola, Weezer, Foo Fighters, Sonic Youth) where you felt like you were seeing something rare and special, and again, nothing like this. I've been left bewildered and slack jawed after seeing a band so good it blew away other shows (NoMeansNo, Fugazi). I've stage dived and gotten in fights (NOFX, Rancid, MDC, Shelter), where my blood was absolutely pumping. I've met women at gigs who I ended up dating. I've gone through the emotions. I've done a lot more than just stand and sing along.
It's not weird for an adult to connect with music emotionally. It's weird to connect while surrounded by children experiencing the same connection.
I think that's someone not understanding that Swift's started journaling her experiences as a 15 year old, so young kids will identify with that more readily. But then Swift has released 10 more albums, and those same 9 year olds on her first record are now 29. They grew up with her. Her music soundtracked various events in their lives. The show I saw, there were a ton of kids, but it was nothing compared to Spice Girls, which was entirely children and their moms. Swift serves as surrogate, big sister, confidante for 20 years' worth of music fans. Swift is non-threatening,
by design. She's not a dancer: she walks and poses. She's relatable. She talks about being relentlessly bullied, about having very public feuds with people, with being betrayed by close friends. These are relatable topics. It's almost a rite of passage now. An older sister brings her younger sister/cousin. There are also "clean" versions of her albums that have alts for the swear words, so it's kid-friendly.
There is no end to her genius.
I think a degree of her appeal is the non threatening nature of so many aspects of her. None of her undoubted talents are intimidatingly good. She's quite a mundane megastar.
Read:
approachable. She's a superstar, which is not mundane, but she is not some virtuoso talent, some shredder, or vocal gymnast.
Also a completely separate topic but if I'm at a gig, the last thing I want is for everyone around me to manically screech every word of every song around me. Call me old fashioned but if I'm paying to see someone live, I want to hear the artist and not some twat next to me.
I think you want something from a live show different from a lot of people. I think it's boring as feck when the crowd isn't singing along.
Yeah, the more I read it seems the demographics while described as broadly white millennial and female, that is misleading as the gender split for example is about 55% to 45% depending on sources and overasll 25% are boomers.
Boomer part sounds accurate. The show I saw was closer 80-20 female to male ratio. There were no other males in my entire section, for instance.
Cool cool! You 2 are definitely her biggest cheerleaders. I was replying specifically to that post where you were being pithy with a guy that was calling you out - though in fairness, I was just reading speedily and genuinely a little bit fatigued by "repeat offenders" in this thread - apologies if that's not your case
As for the breakind down/meltdown conversations, I think there's a lot to do with demographics (a lot of her fans are teens), and for some adults, I guess it's the connection going back 10-15 years with her music?
A few years ago I broke down at a Gorillaz concert, I'd gone through a really hard year, and it wasn't the genius of lyrics of "kids with guns" or anything that got to me, rather the nostalgia completely submerging me when I was in a rather vulnerable emotional situation. I think it's fine that music can do it and trying to rationalise it doesn't make much sense.
I think also that any male is not going to have Swift's lyrics or songs resonate with them in quite the same manner as a female. A person's emotional state has a lot to do with it. Swift encourages the crowd to feel it.
I don't get offended when someone criticises what I llke, that's part of being on an online forum.
The issue is people implying they have better taste for not liking Taylor Swift and every thing that comes with that. That, if anything, is very weird behaviour for fully grown adults.
Yep. This has always been there, though. Someone always going to say you just don't know as much as me that's why your tastes are so pedestrian. Tiresome.
It's not stupid, it's a valid opinion I think. And one I hold, but not one I have voiced loudly because it could be seen as obnoxious in the wromg context, but not stupid in my opinion. There is a hierarchy that isn't just fans and record sales. Some art/music/film etc is better than others in lots of ways.
Better isn't the same as more liked. I like a ton of bands
better than I like The Beatles, but I would never say they are better bands or even that they wrote better music than The Beatles. Musicianship and technicality I don't give a feck about. I don't listen to Dream Theater. Music that was a part of my formative years is going to have deeper resonance for me than music that is objectively better. An example from another milieu: Spielberg makes expertly crafted films, and I can't stand them.
Some of you wouldn’t last 10 minutes trying to defend Mission Impossible 2 as the best film in the series!
Bless you, my son.