First up, thanks for the replies guys, I'm finding this a very interesting subject, I appreciate it!
I personally think God showing up would be the best way to test us, surely then that would really show up those who should not get into heaven? If he turned up and confirmed the rules but said he still wouldn't actively touch anything, surely that would show up the truly evil people who would no doubt still kill for example? I don't get why we should all be tested and even if we live our lives better than the average christian, still not get in.
As for the bone cancer in babies scenario, can I genuinely ask if your answer makes you happy with that? Ok, happy obviously being the wrong word, satisfied that god is still all loving? You say cancer is a flaw, and anomaly, but surely that then proves good is fallible and by extension, nearly all of Christianity? Even if so, why couldn't he just stop babies and children getting it?
Human nature is such that even if God showed up once, eventually it would be forgotten and people would still have their own reasons to commit atrocities anyway. However, I would say that God actually has "showed" up via the various Prophets. In Sikhism, God is formless and beyond human comprehension in terms of complexity. I repeat, religion in itself is not the key, so living a better life than a Christian gets you more favour.
Does it make me happy? No of course not, it makes me sad and feel anguish. But I recognise that it is not God to blame, but our own deeds. However, we do our best to help them as best we can, and if possible cure their cancer.
What, then is the level of ego and materialistic things we are allowed to have? I mean we all have egos, is there some cut off? Or are we all supposed to just go without and be eternally humble?
None. Ego must be completely surrendered to achieve enlightenment, and you cannot have attachment to materialistic things because they are all temporary.
Well that seems like a stacked deck. A test that isn't fair.
Yes it is. However the means are there for those who seek them out.
I understand it's complex my friend
But is there an answer for why babies? As in is the scale of past deeds relevant to how long you live? And what about the knock on effect, what about people who might do some unknown wrong as a direct result of their child dying? But most of all, I really want to know, does that mean all children who die deserve to in the eyes of our creator?
It's not a simple criteria checklist, so why in babies is not that simple. Perhaps it is that they have done more severe crimes which have taken their toll. But you have to realise the 'baby' is just one of many thousands of lives. In this life the baby died early, in the next 5 because the due has been received, the person enjoys happiness and wealth. As for the knock on effect, it becomes very complex as I've mentioned. Because everyone in their lifetime if they live long enough will lose someone, so does that mean by definition we are all sinners? Are the Doctors, nurses etc. that have been affected sinners?
Think of it like this, every action/thought you take is like throwing a pebble into a lake with a ripple effect. Now imagine how many actions/thoughts you do on a daily basis, each equivalent to throwing a stone and how many ripples that generates and the subsequent overlapping etc. Then imagine across a lifetime. That's the complexity of it. The good = reward, and bad = punishment is an extremely simplified version just to explain the foundation.
So again, doesn't that render religion pretty much unnecessary?
Yes, and no. We don't need religion itself, what we need is a master who can show us the way, and religion is the best way to access these teachings and methods. Let's say you met a master who had achieved enlightenment, and could show you the way. You could follow him, and let him mentor you on a 1v1 basis. That wouldn't be a religion, you wouldn't be part of a religion at all but you'd still need his mentoring. It's the same with religion, it's just that it's a way to give many people that kind of access.