I agree with you in that Syria desperately needs reforms, I mean heck I was one of those loudest in demands for reforms back in March 2011 when the protests started. However since then these peaceful protests have been hijacked by Islamic extremists who have steered them into an all out violent sectarian conflict, and won't stop now until Syria becomes an Islamic theocracy. Thats also why regional neighbours such as Saudi Arabia and Qatar have been arming the rebels - they have no regard for human rights or democracy in Syria, they just hate seeing Alawites at the helm and would rather have their own Wahabi-like ilk running the country.
And this idea that its Assad's war against his people is not only ludicrously simplified, but its flat out false too. Assad hasn't been personally ordering attacks against the Syrian people, instead he's put trust into his army and the generals which lead them (almost all of which remain loyal to Syria and Assad) to provide stability and crush any violent threats. And funny enough if these FSA rebels start cowardly forcing themselves into civilian homes in Homs to launch their mortar attacks from, or if they plant bombs in civilian-dense zones in Damascus, then the army will most likely retaliate. And unfortunately when that happens innocent people get caught up in the crossfire.
The truth is millions of Syrians either remain loyal to Assad, or prefer him to the alternative which would most likely be an Islamic theocracy which would threaten Syria's secular fabric. The best solution would hence to carry out (significant) reforms, not sectarian civil war which is what the gulf nations are currently egging for. I think I speak for most Syrians when I say we don't need another Lebanon or Iraq in the region.