"You should have either given them what they needed to win the war or else stopped stringing them along".
If you were the West, what would you have done? String them along or give them what they needed?
It's a very difficult question VorZakone (amusing name, tovarish) because first and foremost it required Ukraine's allies being brutally, brutally honest with Ukraine about the likely course of the war, but they got caught up in the giddiness of all the "looool a russian soldier just blew his own head off by mistaking a grenade for a Cadbury's Cream Egg" tweets and they saw an opportunity to use the war for their own domestic political interests. Poll numbers tanking at home? Shoot across to Ukraine for a selfie with Zelenskiy!
As I've said, the West's entire 'strategy' was based on the assumption that the war would not last very long, and THIS assumption was based on the arrogant certainty that all the countries that "don't matter" would help the West crush Russia's economy. That's why while Russia was switching to a war economy and ramping up arms production, the West was finessing its #slavaukraine campaign and telling "this century's Winston Churchill" to grow a goatee for the cameras. They did not meaningfully do ANYTHING that would prepare Ukraine to win the long war ahead. Instead they engaged in dumb performative outrage like having their diplomats storm out of UN meetings when Lavrov was talking, because that's what wins wars.
Ukraine needed better friends and allies giving it better advice. It needed the West to actually
keep the promises it made (Zelenskiy rants at least 3 times a week on Twitter about how the West has not provided it with anything close to what they've promised, let alone what they actually
need to win the war). It needed calm, clear-sighted people who understand Russia and its war aims. In other words, not the clown triumvirate of Biden, Blinken and Sullivan.
As for stringing them along or giving them what they need? It depended on what the West's aims were. If it was to, as they said, "weaken Russia" while not spilling a single, solitary drop of NATO blood, then they should have done exactly what they did and strung them along. If their aim was for Ukraine to
win, then from 4am on February 24th 2022 they needed to switch to a war footing and give Ukraine every single means they needed to get Russia out of their country. They could have done it. But instead they had Biden saying
"This war is an existential struggle for global freedom and democracy...but whatever happens we're not going to ever send a single Western soldier to fight Russia. On the other hand, I WILL send American soldiers to fight China, because freedom shmeedom, that one's about semiconductors!"). When Biden said that (I'm paraphasing for effect obviously, but that's the content of his statements), Putin knew he was going to win. All he had to do was slowly bleed out Ukrainian men.
You asked me what I would have done if I were the West. I'd have told them to give Putin what he wanted. The demands weren't huge and certainly weren't worth the subsequent destruction of Ukraine that has ensued by stringing them along like this. If Ukraine refused, as they would have, I'd have told Zelenskiy there and then that we had no intention of switching to war economies or ever endangering NATO troops, and so what he's facing is a very long war of attrition which he cannot hope to ever win.
Would that have been fair to Ukraine? Obviously no. But it's being honest with them, and honesty is what they needed. Lying to them, as the West did back then and continues to do now (again, see Zelenskiy's tweets), is worse.