All of the things that you are talking about community-wise can happen without religion, that's just treating people with kindness. Should it matter that your next door neighbour is of a different belief?
All religion does is to other those same neighbours. Look what happened in Punjab and Bangladesh during partition in India, neighbours, some of whom were related to each other, killing because of different religions. Every religion says they love everyone, but they are the cause of division every time.
Being of "x" religion means you are othering those who aren't of that religion, and if a person acts in a way that is not of that religion, they are persecuted.
They can happen without religion but they don't Peter. Or at least not to the same scale.
So while you may not agree with religion yourself if the church is one of the few organisations actually providing entertainment for kids through clubs, company and food for pensioners or raising money to help those in need. Can you not at least respect their views for the good they're doing? Not every person who goes to a church is anti gay, anti trans and anti abortion.
I don't know enough about the conflict you reference to comment. But in recent years alot of wars seem to be more about money and oil rather than religion.
In Northern Ireland our conflict is portrayed as protestant v Catholic and to the outsider appears to be a problem caused by religion. But religion has very little to do with it. 99% of those involved in the conflict have never stepped foot in a Chapel or church. They don't practice either religion. And if anything it was the protestant and Catholic Church who have always been at the forefront of cross community and reconciliation.
So that's a perfect example of a conflict portrayed to be all about religion to the outside but it's not at all.
It's about the British colonising Northern Ireland and taking land of Irish natives and then treating them poorly and discriminating against them for years. Even 40 years ago in London there were signs saying no blacks, no dogs, no Irish.
You have the nationalists who want unification and don't identify as British. And then the unionists who identify as British and want to stay part of the United Kingdom.
So there's the perfect example of a conflict which to the outsider seems like its religious of nature but in reality its not religious at all. British tend to be protestant and Irish tend to be Catholic. Bar that there's no religious element to it and as most of those who fight are atheists, that just further backs it up.
Jeremy Corbyn is another example of media trying to make things all about religion. Because he condemns Israel attacks on hamas he's portrayed as an antisemitie which I don't believe he is at all. And the main people fueling this hate between religions is the media again.
The Palestine Israel conflict again a war all about religion but is it really? I think it probably has alot more to do with their land being occupied by Jewish people after the world war. Just like the Irish have had British occupation in Northern Ireland. Which again has been made out to be a religious conflict but the issue runs much deeper than religion in both cases.