Maybe you're unlucky?
Anti-gay is a strange one. I was approached by an American girl, about a year ago, who wanted me to come to her church. I tried to politely explain that I just didn't 'believe' but she wasn't deterred. So, I suggested my sexuality may be at odds with her particular church. She explained that God loved everyone and through his love people would realise they were heterosexual and in denial. I found it hard to get my head round. She didn't dislike people who live non-heterosexual lives, she loved them as she believed her God did, she just thought them lost. She wanted them to be happy and didn't believe they could be, living as they were. I found her beliefs quite dangerous but not born of any malice, just ignorance.