But it wasn't your life.
The Civil War was a holocaust. 620,000 Americans, roughly 2% of the population, died. Of young men of fighting age, 20% to 25% died. It left the South prostrate and the Nation sundered.
Of the soldiers who fought in the Union Army, not a lot cared deeply about slavery. And vanishingly few wished to sacrifice their lives to abolish it. The war was presented to them as a crusade to save the Union.
Lincoln was a political manipulator, dishonest with his People, herding them into a slaughterhouse of his devising, driven not by concern for their welfare but by the fire of his own righteousness, on which they were to be sacrificed.
America burned on that fire.