There's also a temporal issue to be considered. For instance, if a human like civilization with technology comparable to ours existed in a solar system 100 light years away - 4 billion years ago, they may look at earth and see something like this. Not much life action going on here. Likewise, when we find exoplanets in the habitable zone, its entirely plausible that although they may exhibit conditions favorable to some form of life, that it may have either not happened yet or happened and already gone extinct. And since we can't measure for either, life very well could've existed in abundance on vastly different time scales from the one that we are attempting to measure with from present day earth.
The time scale point is so important to all of this. Humans have existed for ~300k years, had civilizations for a few thousand, and started sending messages out in space a bit over a hundred years ago. Even if we live in a galaxy teeming with intelligent life, it's perfectly plausible that barely any of that life overlaps in time.