Is he though..
Based from what Sanchez and Lukaku said (plus similar comments about Pogba) contrasted with certain favourite players of his, it seems more and more apparent that Ole only talked with players he's fond of eg. Rash, Lingard, etc. Playing the "psychological tricks" in the book perhaps. It's part of managing/leading team. I also think he kept his distance with "neutral" players. And I don't think Ole is the direct type of manager when it comes to managing players.
LVG is for me the very personable manager who will talk to you giving his brutal honest opinion to your face. Happened to Di Maria, Chicharito, etc. Unfortunately he doesn't seem to be the understanding type. Mou is mixed, situational and depends on which players. Moyes is generally distant.