mu4c_20le
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It should be.People keep saying this like it’s relevant
It should be.People keep saying this like it’s relevant
Man i am in a similar boat. It would be very difficult to continue watching the club if that was the case. Incidentally i've stopped following F1 (where i used to see you post a lot) and i hope i am not pushed to do the same with United. Anyway a lot of people agree with you, as evidenced by this thread and the decision that Manchester United made (not the media as many hysterically claim) so don't lose total hope yet! I hope you are well.How stupid am I, I actually thought this would go away or at least die down, how wrong I was, the defending of him is IMHO shocking.
I honestly think my days watching United are numbered, because I think the club is paving the way for him to come back, does not matter if you agree with me or not, my opinions have not changed.
If he comes back I will not watch a match with him in the squad.
I never watch the BBC anymore, and Will Smith and Kevin Spacey movies, and I'm going to stop using my apple phone. I'll start posting on redcafe by pigeon.
I stopped driving cars, using cell phones, or any product made abroad
Well, would you or wouldn't you?Give it a rest. You didn't have to add this self-righteous nonsense to make your point.
Sorry that’s more what I meant. Too many are saying that it’s ok with her so that should get the end of it. There are too many examples of abused forgiving their abusers for it to be that simpleBut it isn't really irrelavant as well, don't you think? I mean, of course Stockholm Syndrome and all this, those things exists and they are part of most of those DV storylines but I think, it is pretty far stretch to just assume, it would be the same in this very case. I mean, it could but we can't just assume. The girl isn't some random stranger with no past, she has a family and a social circle. I am sure, they have made sure she knows the potential dangers and pitfalls.
Some arguments shouldn't just be swept off the table. They aren't really working in both directions, we have to accept their ambivalence.
I would agree though, the fact they are together now, also doesn't work as a "be all, end all" kind of thing to the discussion.
cheersI always though you seemed like someone I'd like in real life.
Still post in F1 a lot, still a lot of Rivalries in it, but this season is not bad.Man i am in a similar boat. It would be very difficult to continue watching the club if that was the case. Incidentally i've stopped following F1 (where i used to see you post a lot) and i hope i am not pushed to do the same with United. Anyway a lot of people agree with you, as evidenced by this thread and the decision that Manchester United made (not the media as many hysterically claim) so don't lose total hope yet! I hope you are well.
Telling a random stranger they don't have the willpower is weird and lame. No need to apologize.Well, would you or wouldn't you?
I'm not telling you to do anything, I just said that there were things I used to love that I can't love because redlines were crossed.
Read through my post history on this thread and apologize
You seem to think choosing not to listen to an artist is some kind of virtue signal.Telling a random stranger they don't have the willpower is weird and lame. No need to apologize.
I don’t even understand what that means. Point still standsYou seem to think choosing not to listen to an artist is some kind of virtue signal.
Your post should grow the feck up
What point???I don’t even understand what that means. Point still stands
What point???
Telling a random stranger they don't have the willpower is weird and lame.
You have mixed him up with a different poster. He was right in what he said.Are you going to not watch the things you said you weren't? Because, if not, you're either a liar or you have no willpower. You're the one who said you wouldn't, not me
You're right, I'm sorry, this was the quote I mixed up with:You have mixed him up with a different poster. He was right in what he said.
To which I replied:I never watch the BBC anymore, and Will Smith and Kevin Spacey movies, and I'm going to stop using my apple phone. I'll start posting on redcafe by pigeon.
I have my own personal experiences and access to evidence that define the way I percieve things. When things cross my personal red lines, I cut them out of my life.
I don't believe you would cut any those of those individuals /organizations out of your life. I don't think that you would have the will power
People have kinks and fetishes and behind closed doors is up to them.
Exactly, surely if all it was all this time was that they were in to some weird kinky shit then greenwood and her would've come and said something alot sooner instead of his career basically being on hold for 2 years and possibly going to prison. I know I'd just come out and say it even it was embarrassing, to save myself. How can people not see this ffs, it's bonkers.Why do people bring this up as an explanation when neither Greenwood, the complainant or indeed anyone else connected to the case have?
Almost as if people are looking for excuses for him.
Sorry that’s more what I meant. Too many are saying that it’s ok with her so that should get the end of it. There are too many examples of abused forgiving their abusers for it to be that simple
A definative club statement saying "He didn't do it. The police dropped the charges we've investigated and we're happy with what we found. He didn't didn't hit her, hurt her or abuse her. We back him completely and welcome him back into the side." was all it would've taken.
You can make your own mind up on why the club took so long and eventually decided not to back him. If you think it's people on Twitter then ok. I personally don't think you would write off that much money/talent if you thought someone was innocent.
Looking forward to discussions on matches he is involved in this thread. Whether we want him to stay or leave United after the loan, him doing well is good for United either way.
TBF they haven't written it off. He's out on loan and my guess is they'll bring him back. He's been out a long time, has players in front of him, and of course would have to deal with the outrage right away. This way the club can just let some other club take the initial hit, can see where he is at, he can develop elsewhere for a bit and get regular action and then in their heads bring him back in if they want to when the heat is lower.A definative club statement saying "He didn't do it. The police dropped the charges we've investigated and we're happy with what we found. He didn't didn't hit her, hurt her or abuse her. We back him completely and welcome him back into the side." was all it would've taken.
You can make your own mind up on why the club took so long and eventually decided not to back him. If you think it's people on Twitter then ok. I personally don't think you would write off that much money/talent if you thought someone was innocent.
TBF they haven't written it off. He's out on loan and my guess is they'll bring him back. He's been out a long time, has players in front of him, and of course would have to deal with the outrage right away. This way the club can just let some other club take the initial hit, can see where he is at, he can develop elsewhere for a bit and get regular action and then in their heads bring him back in if they want to when the heat is lower.
That's my guess on how the club wants it to play out.
For people who says but they got back togethere so it wasnt DV
Which is absolutely no-one.
Pretty much every single poster in this thread has mentioned that abusers often remain with their abuser.
The other side of the argument isn’t that he definitely didn’t do it, or that his partner remaining with him is proof.
The argument is that United concluded he didn’t do as charged after hearing a longer version of the tape (likely extremely x-rated hence the reluctance to publish it to the public), and that all parties including her family (often the side in abuse cases most against the abuser who tend to drive a wedge between their abused and their families). All leads should lead people to conclude quite simply, that they don’t have enough information to know the full story.
The argument isn’t guilty or innocent, it’s about being able to say I don’t know.
Saying you dont know means you discarded the tape. You discarded he picture and cry for help for being abused, just because hey... they're still together
Absolutely not, the mere fact that Arnold has put his entire career on the line by mentioning a longer tape makes me think I likely don’t know everything about this tape and this story, but hey, you keep repeating that.
We all know hostage syndrome, hell my mum stayed with my old fella until us kids started high school, because she felt trapped, despite domestic abuse, mental abuse, affairs, so I’m in a very decent position to know why some partners remain in abusive relationships.
It’s just that in your certainty, we’d have to believe that for example Arnold has lied and put his entire career on the line (in the event the full tape becomes available and is damning), that seems beyond far fetched. We’d also have to believe her family has given full blessing to someone who horrendously abuses their daughter.
Or, these things can instead lead us to question our certainty in the matter? Nothing more, not declaring him innocent, or not-guilty, or a nice guy, or someone even worthy of playing for Manchester United again. Just a simple matter of humbly admitting that we simply can’t begin to know the full story of those events and the subsequent events thereafter.
Arnold doesnt stick his nothing for this. He simply said trust me bro knowing that's the end of it based on something gray. Yet you rather believe him than a cold hard tape
.Greenwood’s case can be one of redemption and be an example to young people that one can change and be an exemplary member of society.
Does a person have to publicly admit guilt as part of his repentance and reformation? I personally don't think so..
He could be but he says he didn't do it so what's he changing from or redeeming himself of?
A definative club statement saying "He didn't do it. The police dropped the charges we've investigated and we're happy with what we found. He didn't didn't hit her, hurt her or abuse her. We back him completely and welcome him back into the side." was all it would've taken.
You can make your own mind up on why the club took so long and eventually decided not to back him. If you think it's people on Twitter then ok. I personally don't think you would write off that much money/talent if you thought someone was innocent.
It's a nice weekend. What you two have decided to do with yours, is to attempt to ridicule someone who was sexually abused as a child based on how they decide to try to avoid products made by people who have sexually abused other children.
What made you end up like this?
No, I’m not certain at all, that’s the difference in our stances on this.
A few factors make me believe I can’t be certain.
I think having the view he shouldn’t play for United again unless evidence can be released to convince fans is a fine view/stance to have. I think being 100% of the facts of the case is something completely different and quite frankly naive.
I agree with that.Does a person have to publicly admit guilt as part of his repentance and reformation? I personally don't think so.
At what point would you admit that maybe... just maybe... Mason is a cnut. How hard is it to believe?
Regarding your point all signs point to them wanting him back in the team but public pressure stopping them, not because they secretly think he's not innocent.
Which is absolutely no-one.
Pretty much every single poster in this thread has mentioned that abusers often remain with their abuser.
The other side of the argument isn’t that he definitely didn’t do it, or that his partner remaining with him is proof.
The argument is that United concluded he didn’t do as charged after hearing a longer version of the tape (likely extremely x-rated hence the reluctance to publish it to the public), and that all parties including her family (often the side in abuse cases most against the abuser who tend to drive a wedge between their abused and their families), and that the cps also concluded the didn’t have sufficient evidence for a conviction.
All of this should lead people to conclude quite simply, that they don’t have enough information to know the full story.
The argument isn’t guilty or innocent, it’s about being able to say I don’t know. If Johnny Depp’s case never went to court I think most of us, myself included (hence my stance on this) would have been that Depp was a drug abusing, alcoholic, violent domestic abusing scum of the Earth.
It’s ok to say I don’t know, that doesn’t make anyone less against domestic violence than those determined to be judge, jury and executioner on partial evidence.
My guess is that we’ll likely find out in a few years if he’s the monster many of us think he may be, as he’ll repeat the same mistakes and his partner will eventually reveal all. Until then though…