Wow, deeper connection to and greater understanding of the book than I have. As a girl who can't relate to many (if any, really) of the themes other than being a woman, I read it from the only perspective I knew, and it was still a very special book to me.
You've kind of blown me away with your story though, I don't know what to say? I'm glad I didn't joke that you were just a wuss for finding it more than "kinda sad" as I first wrote before I posted my reply
I think it's fantastic that a book can mean so much and so many different things to different people. You're also the first man I've ever come across who's read it, which makes you totally awesome