So this was it for me. The final straw. A minor event when it comes to the shit the Catholic Church has done, but anything that breaks needs that final pressure to do so. I have been struggling for a decade with my membership in the Catholic Church. That it was a struggle is an awesome testimony to the priest who was our pastor in Alabama. The Church leadership in America is rotten to its very core. The Bishops, in their expensive finery act as if they are Gods gift to parishioners instead of their servants in faith. They have become ever more political, taking up the side of Trump and the GOP in alarming numbers. The Church, by this vote, now publicly proclaims that supporting the right to chose, which is the law of the land, is more evil than supporting capital punishment, or brutality, or limiting healthcare. All positions the Church has endorsed by their silence the last 4 years.
And of course none of the above even touches on the abomination that was/is the rape of children by priests and the cover ups that followed. I am 100% sure that multiple bishops who voted for withholding communion have raped children, and even more participated in the cover up.
I am done. I am still Christian, but now just one without a church. I don’t even think I want one.
I can relate to this so much. For me one of the defining moments was when I returned home from University and with my mum and Dad we went to a mass in Liverpool. A couple of weeks earlier Tony Bland, the 96th victim of Hillsborough had finally died after a lengthy court case around removal of treatment (artificial feeding tube).
When it came time for the Priest to do his homily, instead he read out a letter from the catholic bishop, Derek Worlock. Whilst this letter offered some superficial sympathy to his family (who would have been sat in some other Liverpool church that weekend) he went on to explain, at length, how morally repugnant the ruling was, that God was the only one who could make life and death decisions and that the family should have fought against it more and were misguided in accepting it.
I can remember feeling increasing anger and a few people walked out of the church at what was said. I felt awful for not shouting this rubbish down. After the mass I told my Mum and dad that I wouldn't be going to church again after that homily, explaining that I'd been to University with people who had been there and it was the most unchristian thing ever to write a letter like that knowing that the family going through grief would hear it.
As a United fan I had just felt appalled at the Hillsborough disaster and the subsequent revelations we have heard about policing and cover ups. I find any Hillsborough chanting totally disgusting and an insult to our own tragic history.
So for many years I didn't go to church until my daughter was born and the local catholic church was the best in the area....so yes I was a hypocrite and went to "enough" masses to qualify her for the school...I even took communion again for the first time in years. The priest at the church seemed an OK guy, was from the Servite order and seemed a bit more modern.
We were then told he was off sick...there were rumours he was VERY seriously ill and some even said he was receiving palliative / Hospice care. The whole church and school felt awful about this...until we read the newspapers one night and found out he wasn't sick at all...He was being tried for having had a relationship with someone he had effectively groomed since she was 15 years old. He'd proceeded to have an on/off relationship with this woman for decades until she went for some therapy and this all came to light and hit the newspapers, including his "apology" letter to her.
Now fair play, the school had removed him as a governor as soon as this came to light and had respected confidentiality...but the fact that the church had us all praying for him as being "sick" was the final, final straw for me. I've had to attend some catholic functions that my daughter attends, but I won't pray in that Church any more and I have no respect left for the organisation.