You are correct where you say autism is unique to the individual and therefore behavioural and social resposes will differ.
However it’s contradictory to claim autistic people have sensory overload. This is a common trait for ASD however it’s not something which is applied to every person with a diagnosis of autism or anything under the ASD umbrella, such as Aspergers. I have recently completed an ASD assessment on an 18 year old boy who is obsessed with theme parks and rollercoasters. Sensory overload would certainly apply to any adult in this environment however it appears atypical in his behaviour.
Second point, absolutely. Whilst social norms will ‘usually’ lead to people with ASD focusing more on subjects of interest, they do still have the ability to engage in other discussion, albeit whilst masking. Again this is predominantly females with ASD but it’s not unknown for males when they’re working in a stress up environment.
Third point, I totally disagree with. Again though, you could be correct due to the diversity and range of ASD traits. Many people with ASD however would simply lack the empathy or either understand or care about moving from football rivals. Like point 2, where specific interests are pinpointed focus, empathy also appears to be towards certain aspects of their life, quite often specific family members, friends or animals.
I wouldn’t believe he had ASD however the massive range of the spectrum would suggest we all have ASD traits. Almost a fifth of people diagnosed with ASD have some form of OCD ranging minor to severe. ADHD also often overlaps with Autism as do multiple conditions involving extra chromosomes. It’s not something you can easily diagnose by watching someone on television.
I have friends and relatives who are in the spectrum. I also spent years working with an Autistic person whom I became a good friend both to him and his family (father is also autistic). Regarding sensory overload I think it stands on the
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Sensory overload is something that fascinated me greatly. My mate was moved into my office simply because he couldn't stand stuff like perfume, telephone calls, small talk etc. I being male (no expensive perfume for me) and quite a techie could limit that to the minimum
The guy would sit down, put his headphones on often on blasting sound (documentaries or classic music) and work. If its was a project that interested him then he would sit down from early morning to late and he simply wouldn't move (no toilet breaks, no drinking, no lunch nothing). He would finish projects that would take others weeks in a day or two. We sometimes spoke about how come he would be distracted by a simple phone call and yet he could tolerate hours of documentaries. His answer was that this was the noise he chose to listen. His father is pretty much the same. He would go home and spend the evenings listening to 60s music till he basically goes to sleep. That's their version of white noise.
I believe that sensory overload in autistics work in 2 ways. Sure they are more sensitive to sensory impulses and they struggle to filter what's relevant to what is garbage. However lack of theory of mind plays a role in this as well. While neurotypicals can acknowledge that a telephone call will eventually end and its simply not worth causing a fuss about it, autistic people struggle on that regard.
Your patient probably tolerated that noise simply because its the noise that he chose to listen to. Its also linked to his fixation and thus it brings him joy.
Autistic people might sound weird at times if not brutal. They often live in a totally black or white world with little to no grey areas in between. That makes them look like aholes (lets face it even Paul Scholes tend to do that sometimes). However that doesn't mean that they lack empathy. I've seen my mate cry when I was leaving work, I've seen him confronting the CEO in a packed office simply because he dared criticising the person's boss in what he believed to be unfair and I also saw him handling his resignation letter when there was rumours that we might have to surrender our office. The guy would buy pastries on a regular basis for everyone out of his own pocket.
Sure the spectrum is wide and not every autistic is the same. However I tend to find autistic people to possess high moral standards and can be incredibly loyal towards other people.