He lived in accommodation with drop in support from social care services, who I worked for, so I knew exactly how their relationship was. I can't go into too much detail, so you'll have to take my word for it. It was manipulative and exploitative in one direction only. In brief, they met when he was about 19 (mental age considerably less) and she was 17, and her and her friends befriended him so he would buy them alcohol. They mocked him and abused his willingness to have some friends. Years later (mid 20s) she was down on her luck, he had social care funded accommodation, so she reconnected and used him for accommodation (she didn't legally live there, she wasn't allowed to, which was a whole other issue).
I think the law I was referring to, which gave the police/CPS the power to press charges without the victims consent was well intentioned. I'm sure it was hard fought for by domestic abuse campaigners for many years. I'm sure it has helped a lot of cases find justice. However, it was also too broad and gives too much power to PC Plod. ANY incident that involves current or former partners is automatically considered domestic abuse, and automatically means that the police can press charges without the victims consent. I'm sure in this case, it was a new power and the police wanted to try it out. They knew or should have known it was unnecessary. I don't trust PC Plod to be able to weigh up these kind of situations. Each of them is also incentized to get a result, they have targets. Burglaries are time consuming and rarely result in, well, a result. Upsetting someone, easy result.
In terms of harassment and stalking. I can't really comment on stalking, as I have no idea how common it is or what is done about it. In terms of harassment, I think in its current form it's one of the most ridiculous "crimes" in existence. To me harassment is hounding someone, going out of your way to intentionally berate or annoy them. However, in the law as it stands it is as broad as making unwanted contact on two occasions (Protection from Harassment Act), or one offensive remark in public (Public Order Act). I don't think the state should be doing anything in 99% of cases where someone has upset someone else. And if they do, in the first instance, it shouldn't be PC Plod who gets involved.
I get that you can't go into the details, I had some questions regarding about how you knew her intentions but knowing your relationship with the man through your employment I assume you were privy to details of their relationship.
I disagree about your assessment of how law enforcement handle something like harassment and the legislation surrounding it though, especially as practices have changed since the incident you're talking about occurred. You mentioned in this and your initial post that the police are incentivised for getting a conviction in a case like this, but police aren't set targets, and there is no performance related rewards for achieving a number of arrests etc. The Protection from Harassment act isn't as broad as making unwanted contact on two occasions. It's explicitly stated that 'the conduct must be oppressive and unreasonable'. Coupled with that are the prerequisites for what constitutes harassment.
- Persistent and intentional oppressive conduct, aimed at causing fear or distress
-The harassment must reach a level of seriousness beyond irritations, annoyances or causing mild upset
-The gravity of the harassment must be of a level which would sustain criminal liability
- The person ought to know that it involves harassment of another. If a reasonable person in possession of the same information would think the course of conduct involved harassment. The test is objective. It’s not swayed by the feelings of the claimant
From the information you've supplied, there is absolutely zero chance that the man would have had a court date, let alone a conviction today. Even more so without a victim's statement. Safeguarding also comes into play, as one of the primary factors when it comes to enforcing this act is that the accused must be fully cognisant of the fact that what he is doing is harassment.
I think once all the above is taking into account, I think we can safely say that harassment is much more serious than simply someone upsetting someone. It's also not something that happens in a vacuum. Persistent harassment can and often does lead to more egregious crimes. While both genders can be victims (or aggressors) when it comes to harassment, if a woman is murdered, it's statically most likely to be a former partner (or a current one). This often follows a pattern of being harassed/stalked. It is important that the state does get involved, if someone is facing oppressive, serious and objectively distressing behaviour they absolutely need protection.
I don't know if the incident you mentioned occurred very early on after the act was created and there was still fundamental flaws (though even from the get go the incident you've describe should have morally and legally never ended in a conviction), the courts were incompetent to the point of criminality, or there is a piece of evidence that you weren't privy to/forgot. The way the law deals with harassment today is flawed in the sense that it makes it very hard to criminalise those who do harass, the same way that sexual abusers and rapists are virtually guaranteed to never face a day in court. Most people, men and women, are very likely to not even report harassment as chances are it'll lead nowhere. At best they could probably hope for a PIN being issued. You mentioned harassment being an easy case for results, but investigations conducted by HM crown prosecution services show this isn't the case. Of the cases reviewed, 95% of the victims were deemed to have been provided with an inadequate level of care. They mention a case where despite a domestic abuser with a knife threatening his victim that they were going to kill them, they were only issued with a PIN.
Needless to say, if a poster tells a similar story from their own experiences and calls a bloke in it a cnut, nobody bats an eye.
Pretty interesting that 'woman' still beats 'learning disability' in oppression/privilege top trumps, mind. Hard to keep score sometimes.
You've just invented a hypothetical in your head to get mad at.
It's incredible how people can literally turn any situation into an opportunity for virtue signalling. We have a social worker explaining how someone emotionally manipulated and took advantage of a mentally disabled person, only to then call the police on him once she was done using him(what a surprise that he couldn't understand that she didn't want to be with him after that?), and 'misogny' is what you extract from it. Does a woman have to murder someone for it to be ok to criticise her?
My (foster) sister was raped when she was 12, by a man who lived with her foster carers. She was let down by the various systems and the personnel who work within them, and society in general I guess. Although it was many years ago, this event has hugely shaped her life and to this day she is terrified of ever running into him again. To the point of panic attacks when she thought she’d seen him. I’ve always wanted her to take this case forward, as she deserves justice, and some form of closure. There’s plenty of evidence too. She is adamant though that she never will, for fear that, in her own words, everyone will think she’s a ‘slag’ or that she’s a liar.
I wrote that post last year. I've spoken about it in other posts, but that's the only where I could remember the thread. The poster made a comment about a cnut crying to the police over harassment claims, and then went on to attack legislation surrounding harassment, and how the legislation should be scrapped and it's not something the government should be interfering with. That absolutely deserved to be questioned, even more so when one is well informed on the legislation surrounding harassment, as they'd know from the events described there would be no conviction (maybe a PIN but still extremely unlikely). With the additional posts and information the poster has provided, I understand their viewpoint a little better and I understand the incident understandably had an emotional impact on them. I also think they're being truthful even if I suspect they're misremembering the specifics of the case, as by their own admission it must have been over two decades ago and by the letter of the law the man could not have possibly been guilty with the information we have.
I quoted my post above to show you why when someone calls someone a cnut for going to the police about harassment and how harassment is too strongly enforced, I'm going to ask questions as to why they think that and that I disagree with their assessment over the legislation. You can call it virtue signalling I don't care as long as I make my points.