Hope Solo

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I had no idea she was dating that asshole Jerramy Stevens. This guy is a feckin' disgrace of a human being. He was apparently arrested on the eve of the night he and Solo were to be married - after two months of dating - for assaulting her and her brother, and possibly another female.

Incredible. Typical of females. They love that asshole, alpha male, bad boy.

http://abcnews.go.com/US/hope-solos...ion-assaulting/story?id=17716602#.UKQploawVTk

Below is how he escaped a rape charge while in college.

http://seattletimes.com/html/localnews/2004147460_rbstevens270.html
 
they are perfect for each other and ESPN needs more trashy athletes to fill their tabloid coverage

I'm sure they will provide a few hours of entertainment.
 
MrMarcello said:
I had no idea she was dating that asshole Jerramy Stevens. This guy is a feckin' disgrace of a human being. He was apparently arrested on the eve of the night he and Solo were to be married - after two months of dating - for assaulting her and her brother, and possibly another female.

Incredible. Typical of females. They love that asshole, alpha male, bad boy.

http://abcnews.go.com/US/hope-solos...ion-assaulting/story?id=17716602#.UKQploawVTk

Below is how he escaped a rape charge while in college.

http://seattletimes.com/html/localnews/2004147460_rbstevens270.html
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What the hell?
 
It's reality that a certain percentage of women chase the bad boy and alpha males. It's not blaming a victim.

This isn't about a woman that fell for a man with no knowledge of his past and he later turned out to be a violent woman beater. Stevens history was there all over past news and all over the internet for anyone to see. She chose a bad boy type because he's a smooth operator and probably charming and good looking, and no doubt she knew of his past.

Hope should be smart and walk away from this disgrace of a human being.
 
Jimy_Hills_Chin said:
A bold prediction my friend.



I think that he is intimating that you are somehow blaming her, the victim, for liking his cock so much that she forgives the fact that he is an odious shit.
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Well, of course I was kidding, but the nugget of truth in the joke is that she must be getting something out of the relationship that makes it hard for her to leave him.

I do think people can take the idea of victimhood too far. Of course, people need companionship, so often they'll put up with a certain amount of shit from others, you *could* say then that such a person is a victim of their needs.

However, she's free to leave him at any time. The guy in question is of course responsible for what he does, but Miss Hope is also responsible for herself. If she chooses to continue to be part of an abusive relationship, for example, ultimately the power is hers to change her environment.

Of course she may need help doing that, many wives and girlfriends stick with abusive mates for a variety of reasons, and it can be hard for them to end the relationships. I'm all for her getting help, but you can't make someone make healthy choices, that is their responsibility to themselves.
 
gooDevil said:
Well, of course I was kidding, but the nugget of truth in the joke is that she must be getting something out of the relationship that makes it hard for her to leave him.

I do think people can take the idea of victimhood too far. Of course, people need companionship, so often they'll put up with a certain amount of shit from others, you *could* say then that such a person is a victim of their needs.

However, she's free to leave him at any time. The guy in question is of course responsible for what he does, but Miss Hope is also responsible for herself. If she chooses to continue to be part of an abusive relationship, for example, ultimately the power is hers to change her environment.

Of course she may need help doing that, many wives and girlfriends stick with abusive mates for a variety of reasons, and it can be hard for them to end the relationships. I'm all for her getting help, but you can't make someone make healthy choices, that is their responsibility to themselves.
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She's a tool. This relationship keeps her in spotlight. And when he really does beat the ever living hell of her, she can play the victim card and have us all feel sorry for her.
 
Pscholes18 said:
She's a tool. This relationship keeps her in spotlight. And when he really does beat the ever living hell of her, she can play the victim card and have us all feel sorry for her.
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That's just disgusting.

Read this passage 40 times
And when he really does beat the ever living hell of her, she can play the victim card
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and reflect.

Anyway, why don't you lot go for it too, seeing as being the victim of domestic abuse is such a surefire way to easy money and success?
 
Waltraute said:
That's just disgusting.
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Not that I agree with Solo being an attention seeker. I don't know anything about the woman. But with her knowing all about this chaps past, does she, as an adult, not bear some responsibility/accountability for any possible repercussions for getting involved with him?
 
Jimy_Hills_Chin said:
Not that I agree with Solo being an attention seeker. I don't know anything about the woman. But with her knowing all about this chaps past, does she, as an adult, not bear some responsibility/accountability for any possible repercussions for getting involved with him?
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Because she probably feels she's the one who will change him. Although Eboue & Waltraute feel it's time to play the femininst card, any (high-profile) woman who stays with a man who beats her is an idiot. It's not like she's in some backwater town with no means to support herself should she leave or a lack of knowledge for support mechanisms that would be in place when she does leave.

How she can stay on, the cynic would say, is down to there being something in it for her.
 
fecking hell. Not making broad generalizations and accusing a domestic abuse victim of staying in the relationship in order to keep herself in the spotlight isn't playing the feminist card. It's playing the "not an asshole" card.
 
Eboue said:
fecking hell. Not making broad generalizations and accusing a domestic abuse victim of staying in the relationship in order to keep herself in the spotlight isn't playing the feminist card. It's playing the "not an asshole" card.
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That wasn't the question that I was asking.

Is Solo, as an adult, and being aware of this fellows past, at some level accountable for any possible repercussions that may occur from this relationship?
 
Jimy_Hills_Chin said:
That wasn't the question that I was asking.

Is Solo, as an adult, and being aware of this fellows past, at some level accountable for any possible repercussions that may occur from this relationship?
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I wasn't responding to you.

But okay, I'll play. Yes she is somewhat accountable for possible repercussions. But these situations are often very complicated and can't be accurately analyzed by message board psychologists. I also think it is important to focus on who the real problem is in these situations: the abuser.
 
Eboue said:
I wasn't responding to you.

But okay, I'll play. Yes she is somewhat accountable for possible repercussions. But these situations are often very complicated and can't be accurately analyzed by message board psychologists. I also think it is important to focus on who the real problem is in these situations: the abuser.
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You broadly agree with me and then add another reasonable point. I have little to offer in response.

Is this chap even that famous in America? I looked at his Wiki and it seems that he has been without a team for a while and never really hit the heights in the first place. He seems like a right cnut, though I wouldn't say that to his face.
 
Waltraute said:
That's just disgusting.

Read this passage 40 times

and reflect.

Anyway, why don't you lot go for it too, seeing as being the victim of domestic abuse is such a surefire way to easy money and success?
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If and when this relationship goes south, I'll have no sympathy. Sorry, just tired of seeing for the most part decent women put themselves in these situations and a lot of times refuse to leave or do anything about it.
 
Jimy_Hills_Chin said:
You broadly agree with me and then add another reasonable point. I have little to offer in response.

Is this chap even that famous in America? I looked at his Wiki and it seems that he has been without a team for a while and never really hit the heights in the first place. He seems like a right cnut, though I wouldn't say that to his face.
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No he is not famous at all. A good comparison would be a backup at Reading or something.
 
He's infamous more than anything. He's the type of vile human being that is a waste on society and should have a bullet put between his eyes.

Because he's a former professional athlete with accumulated wealth, coddled throughout his youth because of his athletic ability, he's gotten away with so much bullshit the average man would been imprisoned with long time ago.

So yes he's the actual problem here, but Solo is certainly inviting present and future problems on herself with this asshole in her life.
 
Hope Solo's husband Jerramy Stevens still in jail in Florida

As Hope Solo prepared to play a friendly against Ireland, her husband, former NFL tight end Jerramy Stevens remained at Hillsborough County Jail in Tampa, Fla., after his latest arrest earlier Wednesday.

A warrant for his arrest was issued by the Department of Corrections though Debbie Carter, a spokesperson for the Hillsborough County Sheriff's Office, told USA TODAY Sports that she did not yet know what Stevens did to violate the terms of his probation. According to the police report, the probation violation involves the possession of cannabis.

A day earlier, Solo met with reporters for the first time since she married Stevens on Nov. 13. The two were married a day after his arrest at a party for domestic violence in Kirkland, Wash. A judge found no probable cause to keep Stevens in custody and released him. However, police officials have decided to continue their investigation.

"My life is great," the goalkeeper said, according to the Associated Press. "My life is happy."

"It's unfortunate what the media can do to judge before the facts are out there. It's hard to see, but it's a hard truth, and it's part of life," she said. "I'm happy. I'm happily married. I would never stand for domestic violence. I've never been hit in my life."

Stevens, 33, was placed on probation through October 2013 for a marijuana charge in 2010.
 
MrMarcello said:
I had no idea she was dating that asshole Jerramy Stevens. This guy is a feckin' disgrace of a human being. He was apparently arrested on the eve of the night he and Solo were to be married - after two months of dating - for assaulting her and her brother, and possibly another female.

http://abcnews.go.com/US/hope-solos...ion-assaulting/story?id=17716602#.UKQploawVTk

Below is how he escaped a rape charge while in college.

http://seattletimes.com/html/localnews/2004147460_rbstevens270.html
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Jesus, that makes me sick, especially the rape charges being dropped basically because of who he was. feck.

MrMarcello said:
Incredible. Typical of females. They love that asshole, alpha male, bad boy.
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But what the feck is this? Cop on, mate.

Waltraute said:
Lovely victim blaming from beer, goo, and RD too.
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And what a glorious overreaction by a psuedo-feminist. An almost scouse-like mentality to find offense when there is none.

Hope Solo does not deserve scorn for being assaulted, but I don't think anyone is saying she does. As far as I'm aware, though, her record is hardly clean, and the fact that despite being assaulted by this man she still went on to marry him does somewhat negate any sympathy she might have garnered.

You want victim blaming then read that article about the woman who was raped by this man and then ignored by the powers-that-be because of who he was, not some idiotic scumbag who persists with clinging onto another idiotic scumbag.

Seems like everyone is trying to make themselves look like an arse in this thread.
 
Jimy_Hills_Chin said:
...Is this chap even that famous in America? I looked at his Wiki and it seems that he has been without a team for a while and never really hit the heights in the first place. He seems like a right cnut, though I wouldn't say that to his face.
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As far as I knew he was "that guy that married Hope Solo". I guess now he's known as 'that guy that beat Hope Solo."

What a chump.
 
Pscholes18 said:
She's a tool. This relationship keeps her in spotlight. And when he really does beat the ever living hell of her, she can play the victim card and have us all feel sorry for her.
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Good lord son, please don't tell me you quoted my post for that response because you think I was saying anything like that.

In fact, I'll take this opportunity to chastise myself for not putting more emphasis on how difficult it can be for someone in an abusive relationship to get away from it.

Just because Ms. Hope has the money to move out of her house and the beauty and fame to get another partner doesn't help much if that's not part of why she's staying. There are 100s of social and psychological reasons people stay in abusive relationships, just because one or two possible sources of pressure aren't a factor doesn't really mean much.

And just because there is a reason someone is susceptible to abuse it doesn't mean they aren't victims. Obviously if one person abuses another there has been a victim of abuse and the responsibility lies with the abuser.

I was trying to emphasize that the only way to solve the problem is to get her to realize she would be happier in a non-abusive relationship, so you could say she needs to change her thinking so she realizes it's more important to make choices that protect yourself mentally and physically than to maintain an abusive relationship, and she'll be happier doing things that way. Thus you could say the solution is to be self-responsible.
 
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